I was eating in the dining hall and seated across from me was a pale, wiry guy eating his food methodically and with great precision. He looked like an eating machine.

‘How’s it going?’ I asked.

‘Fine’, came his reply, ‘except I almost missed dinner. That happened last week and I had to go out to Elsie’s to get dinner. I can get distracted in the stacks and lose all concept of time.’

Stacks meaning library stacks and Widener being one of the world’s largest libraries. He finished his meal and neatly crossed his knife and fork even though we were supposed to bus our own table. Even the blue bloods.

‘I am a researcher and I spend all my time in the stacks. I go there when they open at 8:00 in the morning and leave when they close at midnight. The only time I’m not there is when I eat or go back to my apartment to sleep. And when they close for Christmas. I assume you are a student?’

‘Freshman with the pretty usual stuff. Classes and study and parties on the weekend. Don’t you go to any parties?’

‘What for?’ he laughed, ‘I’m privy to all sorts of fascinating stories and histories and why go to a boring party?’

‘Girls,’ I laughed, ‘that’s the best reason I know.’

‘And while you are out carousing or whatever you call it, I’ll be buried in some ancient text that is spelling out the secrets of the universe. I don’t really go out.’

‘But don’t you miss out, you know, with all the politics and activities and girls?’

‘I get to look at a continuum throughout history and that is something your silly frat parties don’t do for me. I get to see the best and worst and most interesting of human action and thought; what would I gain at a frat party?’

Obviously not a date, I thought.

The guy excused himself, stood up and left.

I sat there for a minute trying to collect my thoughts and concluded that cat had some crossed wires. Life was for living and it was not possible to live in a library. It was a great big world out there and one simply could not experience it vicariously through the writings of others.

It had to be hands on. There was no other way but to go out into the world and directly experience it. Besides, all the Beats said so, no?

For many years that argument made sense.

And that’s how I left it; the creepy researcher living out his life in dusty stacks of old books and papers when all around the world was teeming with life and excitement making stacks of paper look so very dreary.

I went my way and I’m sure he went his. I traveled the world and he most likely dug deeper into the stacks.

The years passed and I stopped going to frat parties and political demonstrations. Even girls became impractical when I picked up a wife. Whenever I would read about a frat party or demonstration my brain would automatically fire out the warning ‘Been there, done that!’ Besides, even if I wanted to go my wife wouldn’t let me.

I’ve come to realize that people can have powerful experiences even though these experiences aren’t what are typically known as hands on big-time adventure. Back in my traveling days I thought adventure meant exotic faces in exotic places. It still is but now I know it’s more than that.

On the other hand, I’ve also come to the conclusion that some folks can delude themselves so well that their delusions become real. Reality is what you think it is. Or something like that.

And as the years went by my thinking that the researcher’s reality was flawed began to be less certain.

Since then I’ve come full spectrum and concluded that neither of us was right on that Cambridge night so many years ago. Experience is what sticks in the head and craw and that can be what we think as well. Or read. It can be what we find in the jungles of Maya Mexico or in the archives of Widener Library.

But does it really matter? Can’t the human brain adapt to almost any circumstance and condition?

The neuroscientists are now telling us that experience makes up 75-80% of our psyche. In other words, given a full deck of genes, we become what we experience. What they don’t say is what kind of experience and if it matters.

It has to matter. Given that ‘experience is us’, several questions float immediately to the surface.

Can we program experience? What constitutes a good or development enhancing experience? If we have junk experiences do we become junk? Can I trade in some of my junk experience for some quality experience? Where do I hang my materialism and most importantly, what do I do with all my stuff?

And so on. For his sake I hope my dining room amigo got out into the world more and felt the great rush of energy and excitement that is to be found everywhere. For my sake I should probably find a good library and bury myself in research for a couple of years. My wife would approve as long as there are no dancing girls. It all seems to tend to a state of equilibrium. Ying and yang and what not. Do the years even things out?

In the end I now realize we were both a lot more alike than different. Sadly, it took me a lifetime of experience to find that out, though better late than never.

I doubt neither of us would have traded places but that’s OK too. To each his own and his own experience, and we should always be thankful when we are fortunate enough to gain a little insight into the psyche of others.

And we don’t have to go to exotic places.



By: Jack Deal

About the Author:

Tyra Banks (an American model) with her world class show ‘Americas Next Top Model’ has the best success model for the world to learn from. Can you believe how useful the show has been to aspiring models; regardless of geographical location, gender, age and status? We all have learnt not only by watching the show, but learning and understanding the road map to becoming a model. We actually lack such guiding lessons in the world today. I once read a statement that said in order to succeed, you must put other people’s success on your shoulders and the more the people relying on you for their success, the more you succeed.

A lot has been said about Tyra Banks and I don’t have guards to dismiss those allegations but I have made my own observations that have prompted me to write this post. My conclusion on the person of Tyra banks is that she is focused and passionate about modeling. Yes I have seen some Tyra Banks’ photos online and convinced myself that she only got that far from the demanding modeling profession. All professions have rules to follow that may not be so tasty to the majority, but to assume that title one should swallow strive to meet and exceed the requirements. Can you imagine a model who doesn’t want to be photographed on her bikinis or under wears.

I have taken interest in this show and learnt so much from it. I’m a motivational speaker that has picked so much for my audience as shown in this article. Do you know that success practices are the same for any business and/or career? 

It’s however disappointing to have failed to get an official website for the show. I have tried search engines several times but still failed. Nevertheless, a detailed account of business lessons from this show are covered in the post ‘Business Lessons from Tyra’s ‘Americas Next Top Model’ Show’.



By: Musawenkosi

About the Author:

I am one of those guys that have never really been fast with the girls. My looks are also not what girls see in the soap operas. Though I am a very driven person no girl waits around long enough to hear your plans so as to like you. And let’s face it, even if they listened, they would say they are not interested in my material things, where I work, or where I stay… ohh they couldn’t have been more wrong.

You see, I came out of college and got a job top notch company. It was not long after that, that I got a girl so beautiful we matched scenes of “the Beauty and the Beast”. We really were close, and after sometime we decided to move in together. By then my salary was way above the average. I could afford a rental house in one of the posh estates. She never lacked for anything… and yes I slaved for all that trying to keep her as the queen she was.

There are many of my friends who actually thought I didn’t deserve this drop-dead-gorgeous chic for a girlfriend but I new better…or so I thought. Anyway, we stayed on happily until by a stroke of misfortune I lost my job and had to start a private business. Of course some of the luxuries had to be cut down. The actual death knell however came when I suggested that we move from the expensive house we lived in to a cheaper but reasonably comfortable house. This she refused to hear. We started arguing about money, a thing that was never an issue in better times. Before I knew it she wanted out and said that she just had fallen out of love… now what does one do with someone that falls out of love… ill tell you … not much. I had to let go.

I cannot start to explain the fury and rage I felt. I felt betrayed, cheated even abused. Soon enough I started seeing girls differently and withdrew to a corner in my mind where I never wanted much to do with girls. I convinced myself that I would need a lot of money to be able to retain a girlfriend or wife. You see, I considered all girls as conniving, manipulative, materialistic and yes ready to fly off at the slightest agitation or discomfort. Inside of me I knew I was wrong, but I decided to stick to that mindset if only as a defensive mechanism to my continued solace and lack of companion. I just stopped dating and resigned to fate. Look for money and they will come running, I figured.

I wouldn’t have had such a strong and wrong perception of girls had I not encountered other setbacks in later dating attempts. I would arrange for a well known girl to meet me at a club, café or park, and they would agree… but they never showed. The more my dates kept bouncing, the more I got frustrated. As I said, I do not have one of those faces they have on soap operas. Infact, I would never make it to the last 1000 auditioning for a Frankenstein role.

I would be lucky to pass auditions for the extras in any movie featuring a street riot. But nevertheless, when I open my mouth, a girl sticks around long enough to know there is something here. Problem is, none sticks long enough for my mouth to open. Anyway, I was doing extremely badly in my dating of girls, whether mature, college girls or maids. Badly is actually an understatement. I knew I had to do something. It was now a year since my last relationship that sunk me to rock bottom and I couldn’t even get myself a coffee date. Something had to give.

One day, I talked to a good friend of mine who for every one of my failed dating tries; he seemed to get 10 successful dates. After listening to my problem in getting a girl to show up for a date, he just looked at me and laughed out loud. He said he thought he was no match for me, that I have got all it takes and more. I didn’t know all that myself.

As far as I was concerned, I was a total failure in dating. My friend then went on and told me that he thinks am way too serious when talking to women. That I should vibrate positive energy and surely the girls will start appreciating me. You see after I was dumped the first time, I developed this negative attitude towards girls. I couldn’t not engage them in tease talk; I could no longer play the dating games that girls seem to enjoy so much. You know what I am talking about, the back and forth, come- go, Yes-No cr&#p.

Then just as a passing piece of advice, my friend mentioned that there was this one e-book that I can get from the internet that will instantly change the way I look at dating women. He said that he once read it and no wonder he was 100 fold better in meeting, talking and engaging girls. The girl dating e-book was called Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. I decided that I will need to get a copy of my own and started researching reviews of double your dating e-book.

Searching from Google I was astounded by the many highly positive reviews that this guy David got. I immediately downloaded a copy of the double your dating e-book. The 90 page dating e-book is simply a bible for people looking to improve their dating skills. I learnt that the author had personally tested each and every girl-dating-technique he includes in his e-book rendering them guaranteed to work. It’s awesome. I read the eBook and re-read it another 3 times in a single weekend. Then I started planning. I had a lot to work on my appearance first, then my perception, then my confidence, my power, my charm etc. I also came to understand better…The Dating Game.

Now…Listen to this, on the first weekend after reading the e-book, I had 3 dates back to back. I had so many dates with some of the women I thought beyond me, I was amazed. Actually for one particular girl, my odds were as slim as an ice drop’s chance in hell. But I did it. Well folks lets just say I moved from being a dating nerd to a highly efficient player. Most importantly is that, I previously thought it took money to date girls but since buying the e-book and getting down to business, the only thing that hasn’t moved north is my salary.

And I still date some of the most beautiful, sophisticated and expensive girls…Player style. I would love to tell you what the e-book taught me but hey… I don’t want this David guy lawyers breathing down my neck. You would need to get your own copy by following the links on my author’s bio below. The e-book is written by one of the most prolific, most respected dating expert who has on numerous occasions been featured on Oprah Winfrey talk show and on TV.

If you want to learn some of the real-life tested dating techniques from one of the most respected dating expert on Oprah and other TV Shows, follow the links included in my bio below.



By: Robert Edmonds

About the Author:

Even if you are designing your first website, you probably have been using computers and surfing the internet for quite some time, and you may have forgotten what it was like when you first began. One method of thinking about designing a new website is to use a mind mapping process, or to draw up a spider diagram. Because people have different needs, are different ages, live in different states, have different educational cultural backgrounds and have different life experiences, designing your website to appeal to your target audience takes some careful analysis. In summary, there is much to consider when designing a website.

Design Your Website - If you have no experience or limited experience designing a website you can choose from thousands of professionally designed templates for as low. Search engine optimization is the skill of designing or re-designing a website in order to improve the search engine ranking of that website for certain relevant keywords. When you go through the website designing process, for more detail www.my-early-days-on-the-net.com it is important to make sure that your website is put into simpler navigation form. This is way lower as compared to what a web designer would ask you for designing your website, not to mention the time factor.

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By: Jaanvi01k

About the Author:

Girls junior golf has grow in popularity in leaps and bounds in just the last five years. Whether this was started by the Tiger Woods phenomena, Annika Sorenstam or Michelle Wie, is not really important. What is important is that more young ladies are playing girls junior golf than ever before!

With the growth in girls junior golf, many summer golf camps have become popular to attend. These schools range from 3-Day schools to 5-Day schools in length and cover all aspects of the game. So if your daughters are anything like mine, they are more worried about what they will need to pack in order to stay beautified while they are gone. While this is important, here is a checklist of items that you will want to make sure that your child has before they leave for summer golf camp.

1. You want to pack your golf clubs. This sounds obvious and sometimes that makes it the hardest to remember. If your child is looking to get a new set of golf clubs in the near future, you will want one of the golf instructors that she works with to give you recommendations for her next set as well as the specs or measurements that she will need.

2. Packing the needed medications for the time your daughter will be gone is important. Try to think ahead as well. For instance, traveling to another area of the country may kick in some allergy or sinus problem that she was not currently having at home. With this over the counter medicine not taking up much room it is much better to be safe than sorry.

3. You never know what kind of weather you are going to encounter during your girls junior golf camp, so make sure you take the right kind of gear for rain, like a rain jacket, umbrella, or visor. In addition, stay with solid colors so she can mix and match while she is gone.

4. Make sure you have comfortable shoes and socks with you. While at the girls junior golf camp, they will be hitting more balls and playing more holes than they are probably used to doing at home. Having fresh socks to put on at lunch may give their feet the breather that they need.

5. Again, practicing and playing more than usual, your daughter will need to pack plenty of golf balls, gloves, tees, etc. How many will depend on her current skill level and the itinerary for the school.

6. You may not have to deal with many bugs where you live but you never know what can happen at junior golf camp. Packing a bottle of insect repellant in her golf bag could benefit her year-round.

7. The more and more we learn about what the sun is doing to all of us, the more important that it is to pack plenty of sun screen. We are learning that this can be very crucial to your health. At our camps, we encourage our students to use it multiple times a day as the instructors do as well.

Use this checklist and add to it as needed to make sure your junior golfer is prepared to attend girls junior golf camp. The preparation prior to leaving will result in her having what she needs while she is at girls junior golf camp. This will help insure that her experience is a positive one for her as well as the rest of the family!



By: Maxx Johnson

About the Author:

“The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience” - Emily Dickinson

How much pleasure have you had today? Yes, be honest, unless you are one of those rare people experiencing a lot of pleasure, you probably have not gotten your pleasure meter far off the ground today. The Webster Dictionary definition of Pleasure is: a pleased feeling; enjoyment; delight; satisfaction. You know the feeling—the warm, open feeling of delight throughout your whole body—difficult in some ways to articulate—but you know what I’m talking about–Pleasure—it is fun to say and almost evokes the feeling just by saying it. Try it—say it out loud–Pleasure. What a great word—fun to say and even more fun to fully experience!

When I ask my clients “What gives you pleasure?” it can take awhile for them to generate answers to the question. There can be reactions like “I’m not supposed to focus on my pleasure, that is selfish” or “It’s been so long since I have felt pleasure that I don’t know what would give me pleasure.” Another reaction is that they are able to list the things that give them pleasure but when I ask them the last time they did these things—they sheepishly respond that it hasn’t been for a long time. Women in particular have a hard time staying focused and attending to their own pleasure because they are socialized to channel their energy to support other’s pleasure, not their own. A few years ago when I was on vacation with my family at a cottage in Upper Michigan my Aunt shared that she would love to go see the sunset on Lake Superior, a fifteen minute drive from where we were. I was so excited because it was rare that she verbalized something that would give her pleasure—as she was so focused on what would give her husband and children pleasure, but not herself. We were preparing to leave when a family friend from a neighboring cottage came by and asked my Aunt to prepare a fish that he just caught–without a blink of an eye, she said yes, and her trip to watch the sunset vanished into thin air. Again, someone else’s pleasure was more important than her own. I was both angry and sad how quickly she let go of her own pleasure.

Think of the ripple effect of her denial of her own Pleasure. To look at this let’s use the Inner Bonding framework that we have a child within that we are constantly communicating with. Imagine the inner communication that my Aunt had within herself—she told the child that they were going to watch the sunset–and just like any child that part of her started to get excited, anticipating the fun and pleasure of seeing the sunset—getting more excited as the time to go came closer (you know this is exactly what kids do) and now imagine that she chooses not to go and prepare the fish for her friend instead. How would that child inside of her feel? Devastated, angry, sad, unimportant. There would definitely be an impact on the inner level—a feeling of despair, irritability, her energy level may have dropped, she may have snapped at others later in the evening. There are negative consequences both for her and for the others around her—these kind of denials do not go without profound consequences. If this kind of denial of one’s own pleasure continues it can lead to feelings of depression, anger, deadening of one’s Spirit and even illness.

Let’s look at the ripple effect of what would have happened if she would have followed her Pleasure and went and watched the Sunset. She would have had the wonderful feeling of Delight and pleasure in her body as she watched the sunset. Her energy would be uplifted, open and she would feel a deeper connection with herself and those around her. She would feel relaxed —any tension that was held in her body would melt away—her breathing would open and deepen. In this relaxed, open, uplifted state she may get creative insights into how to address some of the issues she has recently been facing—allowing her to resolve these with ease and grace rather than struggle. She would feel inner trust from listening to herself— that child part of her that was excited about going to see the Sunset—this part of her would feel valued and important—thus she would feel her own value and importance. The child part of her—which is the part of her most connected to what would give her pleasure –would feel safe to bring up more ideas of future pleasurable activities—pleasure would open and expand in her life—rather than constrict and lessen—which would be the consequence of not following through on the sunset pleasure.

Our state of mind affects those around us–even if we don’t say a word– people close to us can tell if we are in a good or bad mood and generally are affected by how we are feeling. Because of this, my Aunt’s good feelings from following her pleasure would have had a ripple affect of spreading good feelings to those around her. Her uplifted mood would also positively affect the way she interacted with her family—she would be more open and loving with them. So you can see all the benefits of following your own pleasure—your life opens and expands in positive ways. The following are 6 guidelines for experiencing the power of your own pleasure :

1.  Take Your Own Pleasure Seriously- You need to be the champion of your own pleasure—following through and honoring the things that bring you pleasure—not bowing to external pressures that sidetrack you. Listen to that voice within you when it comes up with a great idea for something that would give you pleasure—the more you listen, the more ideas will come. Open the pleasure floodgates!

2.   Make Your Own Pleasure a Priority- One of my favorite ways to do this is to structure your day around your pleasure. Putting pleasure at the top of your list rather than the bottom can have a tremendous impact on your day to day life. Pleasure feeds your Spirit and energizes your energy system—giving you more energy to do all that you want to do. When I plan my day I make sure that I have something pleasurable planned right away in the morning—lately it has been a bike ride—this infuses the start of my day with positive energy from the pleasure. Than I make sure that I have something pleasurable to do over lunch—like meeting one of my favorite friends or taking a walk outside. In the evening I make sure I have something pleasurable to do —watching the sunset or watching a fun, light- hearted sitcom. Planning your day with Pleasure as your number one priority will allow you to do the other items on your to do list with ease and more energy. So tomorrow write at the very top of your to do list “PLEASURE.”

3.  Take Full Responsibility for your Own Pleasure- Do you take responsibility for your own pleasure or do you hand that over to other people—your mate, your friends, your kids? This is a common thing that people do and often they are unconscious of this. A signal you may be doing this is if you find yourself frequently let down and disappointed with people. This disappointment is coming from an expectation you are having of them to act a certain way in order for you to feel good—“they must say this, do this etc—and I will feel good.” Imagine making your pleasure independent of what others around you are doing and saying—that is when things get really exciting and fun! An example of this is around Holidays— if you have expectations of how your family should act in order for you to have a good time—you will probably be disappointed because you have no control over what kind of mood each family member will be in , if they are open to having fun and being loving or closed and stuck in negativity. If you make your pleasure independent of what will be happening with others you will be assured to have a good time.

4.  Involve All of Your Senses to Experience Pleasure- An essential part of feeling pleasure is to connect to the sensations of your body. If you are stuck in your head worrying, analyzing, thinking of the past or the future you will not be present in your body to feel pleasure—you in fact will probably be feeling tension and anxiety. To feel pleasure you need to open up to the experience of the moment—how does the air feel on your skin, what are you smelling, what are you seeing around you. You may have an opportunity for pleasure that you are missing by being lost in the thoughts of your mind. Once you are connected to the sensations of your body you will have a better idea of what needs to happen to experience pleasure. For example you might notice in your everyday surroundings there is a lack of visual beauty—so than you can do things to change this to experience the pleasure of visual beauty. If you are at home now, look around you—does what you see give you pleasure—are the colors and items plifting and beautiful? If not explore what colors and images you would like to have in your environment. What sounds do you hear during the day? Do you hear laughter, music you love, singing, birds? Pay attention to what gives you auditory pleasure and make sure your day is infused with these sounds. What physical sensations give you pleasure? I love the feel of my dog’s soft fur on my fingertips—I close my eyes and take in how enjoyable the sensation feels to me. Does the physical sensation of different movement feel good to you—biking, dancing, walking, skipping? What kind of touch feels good to you? Do you like someone holding your hand, rubbing your back or your feet, stroking your hair? Tune into what physical sensations you really love and make sure you take action to bring these sensations more into your life.

5.  Take Ordinary Tasks and Infuse them with Pleasure-Think of the tasks that you need to do in your life and see what you can do to bring more pleasure to these experiences. What could you do to bring pleasure to cleaning your house?—playing your favorite music, taking dancing breaks, goofing around with whoever is cleaning with you or goofing around with yourself! I do this when I am writing articles—I play my favorite music loud, I drink my favorite iced tea out of a colorful tumbler, I have loving and encouraging notes to myself posted all over my computer screen, I have beautiful images on cards that I can see in front of me, I burn my favorite incense and every 10 minutes I take a dancing break! Consequently writing is very pleasurable and fun for me. Years ago when I first started writing I didn’t do these things and writing was hard and a struggle for me. It was after I made pleasure a priority in the writing process that writing became very fun, easy and something I look forward to. Look at what activities you must do and see what kind of creative ways you can bring in more pleasure.

6.  Push Your Pleasure Limits- You may have received negative messages from the culture and your family about pleasure, so initially it may feel awkward and uncomfortable to so openly focus on your own pleasure. Treat these feelings as normal feelings of breaking free of old limiting patterns that no longer serve you in your life. Acknowledge the uncomfortable feelings but don’t let them stop you from moving ahead with following your pleasure. The idea is to expand your capacity to feel pleasure and feel it more often in your life. Take risks and experiment with what would give you pleasure—Wonder to yourself— “What would give me pleasure today or in this moment?” —listen to what comes to mind and than try it. Challenge yourself to feel more pleasure throughout the day—don’t feel some pleasure and say to yourself— “That’s enough I’ve had my pleasure for the day”—-no, no don’t do that—go in the other direction and say to yourself “That felt really great—I want to feel more of that today!” I really feel that there is always room to stretch and grow in the good feelings that we can experience—so don’t cut yourself off from the amazing possibilities! Your feeling great will be an inspiration to others and allow them to see how they can move into those wonderful feelings as well. Commit to being a Pleasure Pioneer exploring new territories of pleasure, paving the way for others to joyously follow!



By: Shelley Riutta

About the Author:

Valentine’s Day is a very versatile occasion with regard to dresses. It does not bind you in any particular silhouette, color or length dress. Thus there are various choices open for you to wear on Valentine’s Day.

Red color dresses are staple for Valentine Day. The reason behind is the similarity of message they both send i.e. love. But it’s not fastened rule to wear red dress. Pink and white dress are also very much in vogue. Similarly choices are open for other colors also.

Many times it happens that the choice of you and your beloved contrast heavily. But as clothing is a matter of personal choice, thus you go for your style dress always. But if on Valentine’s Day you wear the style dress of his wish, just imagine how happy he will be. It will give him a feel that you respect his choice also, which will enhance more sweetness of your relationship. The dress also expresses the inner love you have for your darling.

Likewise if suddenly you appear in a completely new style dress, in which he has never seen you before, it will be a great surprise to him. Nowadays many dresses have come up for Valentine’s Day that is categorized under different categories. Let’s have a look on them.

1) Evening dresses

If you have a plan to throw a huge Valentine’s Day party go for elegant evening gowns and dresses. Long gowns, prom dresses best defines evening dresses. By zillion times they increase the show of evening with their gracefully designed silhouette. Thus evening dresses are not just limited to parties but for Valentine’s Day also they work the best.

2) Party dresses

Party dresses are exclusively designed just keeping party scenario in mind. They are finery in appearance and are very expensive too. Their silhouette, design and cut perfectly give the party look and feel and take you completely in that mode. They range from long gowns and dresses to short and mini dresses. Apt for Valentine’s Day as many parties are thrown on this day. So, if you have planned a party for the love day starts lining up your party dress much before the eve.

3) Cocktail dresses

Cocktail dresses are a very good choice for Valentine’s Day, especially for those want to be in a flirty appearance. Silhouette that define it are short dresses, black dresses and tea-length dresses, in various styles.

4) Hot dresses

As the name determines these dresses are sensuous, seductive and very tempting. They are worn if going for a night out or clubbing, thus if you have any plan to go to club or for a night out there is no other fabulous choice than these dresses.

5) Designer dresses

Whatever the occasion is, designer dresses are always on priority list. The beguiling charm of these dresses is so attractive that they can even lure the miser to purchase it. Always there is a large queue for these dresses. No doubt they are expensive but at the same time can make your special day more fascinating with their great charm. Therefore if you can, definitely go for them.

Thus you see many dresses are available in the market for the day of love. Dresses paves a great way in making this day special but other thing that is equally important is enjoyment. Hence make a balance between both; it will take your day to the high spirits.



By: carty

About the Author:

Hi, SargomanX here…

Are you searching for an AoC Guide to help you level your character as fast as possible? Do you want to know how to create a character that will ease its way through the game? This Age of Conan guide will cover the basics of the game and leveling.

Note: If you are a serious Age of Conan player, you will need a more comprehensive AOC leveling Guide,

When you start out in AOC, you can choose either Cimmerian or Aquilionian. There aren’t really any difference in the two, when it comes to leveling, so just pick one and let’s get going.

Levels 1-5:

The first few levels are pretty simple, as they are just toturial levels. Turn 180 degrees, go to the water and find a chest. It’ll give you a ring. Talk the girl in chains and get your quest. Just kill some apes, some pirates and some pics. When you are at Tortage, you should be close to level 5.

Levels 5-10:

Go the guard and get a quest, next go to the inn and find tina. You’ll get a destiny quest. When done with this one you should be atleast level 10 and preferably level 15.

Walk around in the town and fill up your questlog. You can have 32 at one time. When you reach level 15 you can restart your destiny quest from your home city.

Levels 15-30:

Do the destiny quest and then walk around and fill up your log again, keep doing quests until you ding level 20. Lots of these quests are “messenger” quests where you’ll spend a lot of time traveling. Use your minimap and try to be efficient.

It is in these situations a aoc leveling guide comes in handy, I cannot begin to tell you how much time my guide has saved for me. If I do nothing alse than leveling, I can reach level 80 within 1 week.

When you’re finished with these dreadful quests, go to the Cimmerian Settlement where you will get lots of quests. After these you should be close to 30.

Levels 30-35:

I always love it when I hit level 30, soloing becoes so much funnier and the whole game changes. Now go to Old Tarantie and get some easy grey quests.

From now on, you’re on your own. But I believe that you have a good understanding of the game by now, and you should be just fine..

Now, the average gamer use around 3-4 weeks to hit level 40. When I use a guide, I hit level 80 in less than half that time. If you ever feel like you’re stuck and want to level faster; use a guide!

See you on the servers,

SargomanX



By: Pasquale Knapp

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The moment has arrived. You stare deep into her eyes. She stares deep into yours. Your breathing seems to stop and you can tell she’s slightly blushing. Your heart starts beating a mile a minute and you can tell she’s also as nervous as hell. You lean over and she let’s you. You kiss. And the fireworks start all over the place. A very ideal first kiss scenario, right? But here’s the big question: do you know how to tell when a girl wants to kiss you?

Though being a worry wreck is normal, you need to calm down first of all to detect signs that your girl wants to kiss you. Girls give-off non-verbal signals and this could get pretty frustrating not only for you, but also to her when you couldn’t tell that she wants some smooch action. I know. Women are hard to figure out. But let’s leave that part to our next topic some other time. How to tell a when a girl wants to kiss you? These little tips might help soothe down your nerves and give you the go signal — to start your own fireworks!

 

She stares at your lips a lot. When she does this, it’s usually followed by her pursing her lips together. It’s crazy, I swear. Do not, however, smother her with a kiss right away. Lean in slowly and observe if her gaze remains on your lips. If it does, go for the goal. She’s licking her lips all the time. This is an urge she’s trying to stop (the urge to kiss). She might be giving you a signal to focus on her lips, too. Retaliate by doing so. This will drive her She steers the conversation to kiss-related topics. Does she suddenly start talking about a friend who just recently had a first kiss? Is she telling she’s never been kissed before? Is she asking you how many girls you’ve kissed so far? Bingo. She wants it, buddy.

 

Always remember to go easy on the girls. They want it slow and gentle. So it’s better to play safe and watch out for signals before puckering up. And, to set the record straight, a kiss is not just a kiss. It’s very special and something to remember. So, if you want to hear more tips on how to tell when a girl wants to kiss you and get a dose of very practical, effective tactics on love and dating. And good luck on that first kiss!



By: Mark J. Hamilton

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We all know we should be doing our bit for the environment, but if low energy light bulbs and recycling have always seemed a bit boring to you, here’s a great reason to sit up and listen: hippy chicks.

Eco-girls may be ahead of the crowd when it comes to waste awareness, but their approach to dating is often straight out of the sixties - they’re laidback, open minded and lack that materialistic streak which makes so many women covet extravagant gifts. Sounds great, right?

But if you spend all day every day in high-tech offices and fancy wine bars, how are you going to meet one?

Let me be your guide.

Start by heading to the places where hippy chicks hang out. We’re talking Fair Trade coffee shops and progressive book stores here. Ditch the supermarket in favor of farmers’ markets and organic food stores. Yoga may sound silly, but it’s great for getting rid of aches and pains and day to day stresses, so consider joining a class.

Get yourself up to date with the main issues. There are plenty of books and websites offering the latest information, so read up on everything from recycling to animal testing, alternative energies to over population.

If you can’t keep track of all those issues, don’t worry. Admitting you know very little about nuclear waste can actually be a good thing. Hippy chicks love to share their wisdom, so asking for more information can be a great way of getting her to talk to you. Make sure you show that you’re willing to learn and she’ll be more than happy to help you.

Act the part. At the risk of sounding preachy, lots of eco-friendly activities take surprisingly little effort and some even give you a little glow of pride. Consider trying the following:

* Don’t get caught carrying plastic bags. Reusable cotton bags fold up really small, so stuff one in your jacket pocket next time you go to the store.

* Invest in a quality travel mug and some Tupperware, and take coffee and sandwiches to work. This results in less waste and saves you a fortune, too.

* Lots of smart brands now stock organic clothes, so, given the choice, take the ethical option.

* Use public transport or get on your bike.

If you can’t or won’t go green for real, you’re going to need to pretend. Avoid wearing shiny leather shoes on your first date, and don’t even consider picking her up in a gas-guzzling SUV.

When making a date, think carefully about the destination. She may be vegetarian, so a steak house is out of the question. Consider independent coffee shops and small, quirky restaurants with menus full of organic ingredients. Hippy chicks love to get back to nature, so walks in the woods or strolls along the beach will also be a hit.

Scoring with an eco-babe may take a bit more research than your average girl, but they’re worth the work - and don’t forget that all those ethical new habits you’ve picked up will more than offset any less than virtuous intentions you may have for the end of your date.



By: Scott Patterson

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