You thought you were the last person they would find if they went looking for an emotional person. You are now confused since you met this person who tapped your feelings and now you are all emotional. Which route should you take when it turns to be an emotional love affair? Everything you do turns out to be contrary to your expectations. You are too emotional. Emotional love affairs turn out to be so hurting. It takes long to collect the pieces and move on because they rarely last. Every issue in an emotional love affair ends up in a mess. Keep your emotions in check since they are the same ones which brought you together. Love as an emotion can confuse human mind and beats all intellect. Be wise.



Emotional love affairs come crashing down since intense feelings impair the level of thinking. A previously happy affair takes a turn and becomes frustrating and saddening. Most emotional love affairs use the tit for tat phenomenon. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind so to speak an emotional love affair. It looses direction and focuses on revenge. What do you think will happen when i feel so hurt that my partner has failed to call me. I might be dying to hear him talk i do not care about what even if it is nonsense but just his voice. I will not call him though i will be hurting. Imagine if he also gets stupidly emotional and reacts the same. The affair will simply be a game of shifting blames and on the way to the rocks. To avoid an emotional love affair, do not take revenge to more than loving your significant other back. Just love him/her.

I think i do not care if you love me so much it makes you cry all the time. The problem comes in when you hurt me by the little things you do and it makes me cry. It is not worth if i hate how much i love you. It will stop being a love affair to a war affair. An emotional love affair pushes each partner to fight with their feelings. The more you fight with yourself and reject your intense feelings the more they hit back at you. You will try and fail miserably most of the times. If you get lucky enough not to reach exhaustion, you will succeed in separating with your partner because logic dictates that such an emotional love affair is harmful to your social life. At the end of it you will have scars in your heart which you might take to the grave. To avoid this, do not encourage an emotional love affair at all costs.

An emotional love affair sabotages communication. When you are too emotional, language tends to hit the wall and expression takes a back sit. Without communication, misunderstanding is unavoidable. Please if you notice your partner is going down that route, talk about it. It is in a word. You will never guess it unless you keep talking. Be slow to anger and an emotional love affair will be news to you.



By: FRANCIS K GITHINJI

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A question I hear so often….

I believe there are generally three types of guys:

1) passive 2) assertive 3) asshole

WE DON’T dig assholes (no pun intended..or is that really a pun?). We want REAL MEN! Individuals who are assertive, confident, strong (inner and outer), communicative, gentlemanly, exciting, unpredictable and make women feel wanted!

What we DON’T want (just as men wouldn’t either):

To be disrespected, smothered, overpowered, or mistreated.

Quality women know how to identify REAL MEN from ASSHOLES. And if she’s truly dating an asshole, then she’s probably not the person you want to date in the first place. Look, nice/passive guys don’t necessarily finish last..but assertive guys definitely finish before them. That’s because these men go for what they want.

So the real question is: How do you become more assertive?

1. Know your strengths

Spend time to reflect on what your strengths are and present those qualities.

2. Live it up!

The more passionate you are..the more traveled.. the more rounded you are, the more you’ll naturally have to talk about. You’ll come off as interesting and bound to have good conversations.

3. Follow through

If you think, feel, or plan something…make sure you complete it! No half-assed-ness!

4. Keep it light…enjoy yourself

Don’t sabotage yourself with lots of pressure. Think of it as meeting a new friend and keep it light. If it goes well, then great. If it doesn’t, no sweat off your back.

5. Say NO!

No need to always agree or give in because you think that’s what he/she wants.

6. Take charge!

How is a female supposed to know that you’re interested if you don’t flirt with her and ask her out? She might be feeling the same!

7. Be true to yourself

Why mold yourself into someone you’re not? Be genuine and make decisions based on your gut feelings.

Did you find these effective? What are some of your tips that worked well? I would love to hear them! As always, thanks for being my V’stars!

Vanae’s tip of the dae: When someone offends you, learn from it. Ever feel offended by someone’s comment or response to you? Sure, it’s natural to feel hurt…but step back and reflect. It’s not what he/she did, but what you can gain from it..whether it makes you stronger, changes you for the better, or solidifies even more so what you already stand for. Remember… you can turn anything negative into something positive!



By: Vanae

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How to get girls to like you is probably one of the trickiest questions you ever asked yourself. For starters, most of the girls are picky. They have certain standards that in the event that you do not fall under a specific category, you are automatically stricken off the hot item list. Obviously, the connection between two people is over even before it started. It’s a sad fact that the conclusive minds of most women makes it hard for most men to connect.

Generally, it’s all a matter of personal strategy. There is no specific formula when it comes on how to get girls to like you. It always varies on the way you execute it and the way girls react on it.

There are ways to by-pass the judgmental eyes of the woman. It is by overruling their presumption even before it commences. Sounds like a simple solution right? Here are a few factors to watch on how to get girls to like you tonight.

Tip #1: Be the Man in Between

When you ask women what they want in a man, they’ll usually give you a safe answer. Some of it includes a gentle, sensible and honest man. Of course, they always qualify their answers. They don’t want too much or too less of the attitude. Give them extremes they’ll not want you at all. In short, they want the right blend of sugar, spice and everything nice.

Tip #2: Treat Her Like a Lady

It is common knowledge that women like men who treat them like royalties. You do not have to overdo it. Always be a gentleman and open the door for her, carry her heavy luggage or walk her home. But I also suggest treat her with respect in doses and break her chops a little when she acts bratty. Women will view this as a challenge. Don’t ever be that loser whom the girl walks all over like a doormat.

Tip #3: Show Her Your True Colors

Getting a girl to like you will be useless if there’s no connection established between the both of you. Speak your mind. Be brave to tell her what you think about certain issues but don’t get too carried away. Your objective is to get a girl to like you in an instant and not to get her to hate you. It’s not a debate. Talk to her in a way that she can see what kind of man you really are. Don’t make the conversation all about yourself. Take turns in talking and listening. What ever you do don’t bring up boring topics such as politics, video games and sex. They are instant turn-offs and bringing up sex only transmits what you want and her guard will be up.

Tip #4: Don’t Try Too Hard To Impress

Women will be impressed on things that really interest them. You don’t have to try too hard in doing so. Men tend to sensationalize things to make an impression on someone. Unfortunately, men don’t realize that the more that they try to impress a woman, the more she’ll think that he is insecure. Women believe that if a man is confident in himself, he doesn’t need to bring out things that will boost his ego. It’s not the first on the list of suggested moves on how to get girls to like you in an instant.

Tip #5: X-Factor

As mentioned earlier, girls have certain standards. One of the things that can make a girl disregard her standards is to have the x-factor. It’s the striking asset that women notice in a man without speaking a word. It speaks for itself. The x-factor varies from person to person. You just have to be creative in picking which asset of yours you want to improve and use.

The item mentioned above are just few of the factors that might be useful on how to get girls to like you instantly. The list can go on and on but only you’re the only one who can choose which one best applies to you.



By: Andres Munoz

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I am one of those guys that have never really been fast with the girls. My looks are also not what girls see in the soap operas. Though I am a very driven person no girl waits around long enough to hear your plans so as to like you. And let’s face it, even if they listened, they would say they are not interested in my material things, where I work, or where I stay… ohh they couldn’t have been more wrong.

You see, I came out of college and got a job top notch company. It was not long after that, that I got a girl so beautiful we matched scenes of “the Beauty and the Beast”. We really were close, and after sometime we decided to move in together. By then my salary was way above the average. I could afford a rental house in one of the posh estates. She never lacked for anything… and yes I slaved for all that trying to keep her as the queen she was.

There are many of my friends who actually thought I didn’t deserve this drop-dead-gorgeous chic for a girlfriend but I new better…or so I thought. Anyway, we stayed on happily until by a stroke of misfortune I lost my job and had to start a private business. Of course some of the luxuries had to be cut down. The actual death knell however came when I suggested that we move from the expensive house we lived in to a cheaper but reasonably comfortable house. This she refused to hear. We started arguing about money, a thing that was never an issue in better times. Before I knew it she wanted out and said that she just had fallen out of love… now what does one do with someone that falls out of love… ill tell you … not much. I had to let go.

I cannot start to explain the fury and rage I felt. I felt betrayed, cheated even abused. Soon enough I started seeing girls differently and withdrew to a corner in my mind where I never wanted much to do with girls. I convinced myself that I would need a lot of money to be able to retain a girlfriend or wife. You see, I considered all girls as conniving, manipulative, materialistic and yes ready to fly off at the slightest agitation or discomfort. Inside of me I knew I was wrong, but I decided to stick to that mindset if only as a defensive mechanism to my continued solace and lack of companion. I just stopped dating and resigned to fate. Look for money and they will come running, I figured.

I wouldn’t have had such a strong and wrong perception of girls had I not encountered other setbacks in later dating attempts. I would arrange for a well known girl to meet me at a club, café or park, and they would agree… but they never showed. The more my dates kept bouncing, the more I got frustrated. As I said, I do not have one of those faces they have on soap operas. Infact, I would never make it to the last 1000 auditioning for a Frankenstein role.

I would be lucky to pass auditions for the extras in any movie featuring a street riot. But nevertheless, when I open my mouth, a girl sticks around long enough to know there is something here. Problem is, none sticks long enough for my mouth to open. Anyway, I was doing extremely badly in my dating of girls, whether mature, college girls or maids. Badly is actually an understatement. I knew I had to do something. It was now a year since my last relationship that sunk me to rock bottom and I couldn’t even get myself a coffee date. Something had to give.

One day, I talked to a good friend of mine who for every one of my failed dating tries; he seemed to get 10 successful dates. After listening to my problem in getting a girl to show up for a date, he just looked at me and laughed out loud. He said he thought he was no match for me, that I have got all it takes and more. I didn’t know all that myself.

As far as I was concerned, I was a total failure in dating. My friend then went on and told me that he thinks am way too serious when talking to women. That I should vibrate positive energy and surely the girls will start appreciating me. You see after I was dumped the first time, I developed this negative attitude towards girls. I couldn’t not engage them in tease talk; I could no longer play the dating games that girls seem to enjoy so much. You know what I am talking about, the back and forth, come- go, Yes-No cr&#p.

Then just as a passing piece of advice, my friend mentioned that there was this one e-book that I can get from the internet that will instantly change the way I look at dating women. He said that he once read it and no wonder he was 100 fold better in meeting, talking and engaging girls. The girl dating e-book was called Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. I decided that I will need to get a copy of my own and started researching reviews of double your dating e-book.

Searching from Google I was astounded by the many highly positive reviews that this guy David got. I immediately downloaded a copy of the double your dating e-book. The 90 page dating e-book is simply a bible for people looking to improve their dating skills. I learnt that the author had personally tested each and every girl-dating-technique he includes in his e-book rendering them guaranteed to work. It’s awesome. I read the eBook and re-read it another 3 times in a single weekend. Then I started planning. I had a lot to work on my appearance first, then my perception, then my confidence, my power, my charm etc. I also came to understand better…The Dating Game.

Now…Listen to this, on the first weekend after reading the e-book, I had 3 dates back to back. I had so many dates with some of the women I thought beyond me, I was amazed. Actually for one particular girl, my odds were as slim as an ice drop’s chance in hell. But I did it. Well folks lets just say I moved from being a dating nerd to a highly efficient player. Most importantly is that, I previously thought it took money to date girls but since buying the e-book and getting down to business, the only thing that hasn’t moved north is my salary.

And I still date some of the most beautiful, sophisticated and expensive girls…Player style. I would love to tell you what the e-book taught me but hey… I don’t want this David guy lawyers breathing down my neck. You would need to get your own copy by following the links on my author’s bio below. The e-book is written by one of the most prolific, most respected dating expert who has on numerous occasions been featured on Oprah Winfrey talk show and on TV.

If you want to learn some of the real-life tested dating techniques from one of the most respected dating expert on Oprah and other TV Shows, follow the links included in my bio below.



By: Robert Edmonds

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The moment has arrived. You stare deep into her eyes. She stares deep into yours. Your breathing seems to stop and you can tell she’s slightly blushing. Your heart starts beating a mile a minute and you can tell she’s also as nervous as hell. You lean over and she let’s you. You kiss. And the fireworks start all over the place. A very ideal first kiss scenario, right? But here’s the big question: do you know how to tell when a girl wants to kiss you?

Though being a worry wreck is normal, you need to calm down first of all to detect signs that your girl wants to kiss you. Girls give-off non-verbal signals and this could get pretty frustrating not only for you, but also to her when you couldn’t tell that she wants some smooch action. I know. Women are hard to figure out. But let’s leave that part to our next topic some other time. How to tell a when a girl wants to kiss you? These little tips might help soothe down your nerves and give you the go signal — to start your own fireworks!

 

She stares at your lips a lot. When she does this, it’s usually followed by her pursing her lips together. It’s crazy, I swear. Do not, however, smother her with a kiss right away. Lean in slowly and observe if her gaze remains on your lips. If it does, go for the goal. She’s licking her lips all the time. This is an urge she’s trying to stop (the urge to kiss). She might be giving you a signal to focus on her lips, too. Retaliate by doing so. This will drive her She steers the conversation to kiss-related topics. Does she suddenly start talking about a friend who just recently had a first kiss? Is she telling she’s never been kissed before? Is she asking you how many girls you’ve kissed so far? Bingo. She wants it, buddy.

 

Always remember to go easy on the girls. They want it slow and gentle. So it’s better to play safe and watch out for signals before puckering up. And, to set the record straight, a kiss is not just a kiss. It’s very special and something to remember. So, if you want to hear more tips on how to tell when a girl wants to kiss you and get a dose of very practical, effective tactics on love and dating. And good luck on that first kiss!



By: Mark J. Hamilton

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We all know we should be doing our bit for the environment, but if low energy light bulbs and recycling have always seemed a bit boring to you, here’s a great reason to sit up and listen: hippy chicks.

Eco-girls may be ahead of the crowd when it comes to waste awareness, but their approach to dating is often straight out of the sixties - they’re laidback, open minded and lack that materialistic streak which makes so many women covet extravagant gifts. Sounds great, right?

But if you spend all day every day in high-tech offices and fancy wine bars, how are you going to meet one?

Let me be your guide.

Start by heading to the places where hippy chicks hang out. We’re talking Fair Trade coffee shops and progressive book stores here. Ditch the supermarket in favor of farmers’ markets and organic food stores. Yoga may sound silly, but it’s great for getting rid of aches and pains and day to day stresses, so consider joining a class.

Get yourself up to date with the main issues. There are plenty of books and websites offering the latest information, so read up on everything from recycling to animal testing, alternative energies to over population.

If you can’t keep track of all those issues, don’t worry. Admitting you know very little about nuclear waste can actually be a good thing. Hippy chicks love to share their wisdom, so asking for more information can be a great way of getting her to talk to you. Make sure you show that you’re willing to learn and she’ll be more than happy to help you.

Act the part. At the risk of sounding preachy, lots of eco-friendly activities take surprisingly little effort and some even give you a little glow of pride. Consider trying the following:

* Don’t get caught carrying plastic bags. Reusable cotton bags fold up really small, so stuff one in your jacket pocket next time you go to the store.

* Invest in a quality travel mug and some Tupperware, and take coffee and sandwiches to work. This results in less waste and saves you a fortune, too.

* Lots of smart brands now stock organic clothes, so, given the choice, take the ethical option.

* Use public transport or get on your bike.

If you can’t or won’t go green for real, you’re going to need to pretend. Avoid wearing shiny leather shoes on your first date, and don’t even consider picking her up in a gas-guzzling SUV.

When making a date, think carefully about the destination. She may be vegetarian, so a steak house is out of the question. Consider independent coffee shops and small, quirky restaurants with menus full of organic ingredients. Hippy chicks love to get back to nature, so walks in the woods or strolls along the beach will also be a hit.

Scoring with an eco-babe may take a bit more research than your average girl, but they’re worth the work - and don’t forget that all those ethical new habits you’ve picked up will more than offset any less than virtuous intentions you may have for the end of your date.



By: Scott Patterson

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For successful online dating, you must be get quality responses to your profile. You should be careful to how you respond to the interested people because it matters a lot. While responding to a woman’s personals ad you can use a letter that will make your online dating life to turn around. It helps in creating a wonderful first impression especially if you are the first person to contact your girlfriend. A letter should go as follows: I would really be happy if we became friends. This might result into a wonderful and beautiful relationship. A lasting romantic relationship buds from a grounded relationship. I consider friends to be like beautiful flowers in the garden of life. They shine and spread out bringing out hidden smiles and lighting our days all year round.

When i think about a lifetime partner, I think about a pretty, caring, sensitive, warm and sensuous single lady who wants to be loved. My idea of a friend is a person who can allow me to pour down all my concerns, issues and burdens having the assurance that her warm hands will handle it all, filter all the issues and record what is worth keeping with so much air of kindness and blow away the rest of the unnecessary chaff. Thank a lot for allowing me to be a special friend to you thanks God i browsed through your personal ad. If you see us going places in this relationship, feel free to open up to me and tell me about yourself. I want you to think positively about our future together. We can move from being strangers to being beautiful soul mates. Thoughts are like seeds. The beautiful flowers of the future are the seeds of today.

I trust you enough to tell you about myself more than what you read on my personals ad. I was once married but it is now five years since i divorced. I am 6′ 2″ inches tall, dark brown, Caucasian with blue eyes. I am a healthy man who is financially stable, happy, secure, emotionally secure and self-confident. My hobbies include readings books and poetry, walking on the beach, and late night candle-lit dinners. I enjoy being in the noise-less side of the mountains and also watching as the sun sets and rises. As per my wear, i love good Italian shirts and nice jeans. I do not take alcohol or any drugs as i am naturally exciting. I am passionate about God, church and the bible.

I do not like any type of games especially those ones who derive happiness at the expense of someone else. If I happen to share a date with you or a lifetime, I will never tell you a lie. Not even for a second. I am a romantic man who enjoys integrity, sincerity and warmth. I love having a good time in picnics, conversations, shared affection, touch, and intimacy. I strongly believe in one-man one-woman relationship as I stated in my personals ad. Time will tell whether things will work out for us. I have included a 50-cent stamp to request you to give five minutes of your time and answer my letter. Thanks in advance.



By: Francis Githinji

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Have a date this Saturday? Better check if Fate is on your side, with a quick look at your online dating horoscope.

There are different kinds of horoscopes. The Western Zodiac (Aries, Taurus, Gemini, etc.) is based on your birthday. The Chinese Zodiac (Snake, Dragon, Horse, etc.) is based on your birth year. There is also numerology, which gives a number equivalent to the letters of your name, and the date, place and hour of your birth. You can also get online tarot card readings and rune readings.

Depending on how detailed your horoscope is, you can find out about your personal fortune or your compatibility with your date. A personal fortune just looks at the kind of “universal forces” you need to consider during any particular time. For example, some days you’ll have a higher tendency to get into conflicts, while there are other days when everything just effortlessly falls into place. This doesn’t mean you’re predestined to fight by dinnertime. It just reminds you to watch out and be more conscious—sort of like the weatherman predicting rain, and saying you might as well bring an umbrella.

You can also find compatibility charts. Let’s say you were born in the Year of the Dragon: can you get along with someone born in the year of the Rabbit? In Ancient China, no marriage was allowed if their horoscopes weren’t “auspiciously aligned”. Even if you choose to take their advice with a grain of salt, it doesn’t hurt (and it’s even kind of fun) to check.

Some online dating horoscopes are free. Others give a free trial, then offer more personalized or detailed charts for a small fee. It depends on what you’re looking for. Some will actually go so far as to tell you which days are best for seeing people, which days you should stay in and watch reruns, what kind of lucky charms you may need to bring with you. Others give very general advice, like “It’s a good month for meeting new people.”

Other dating horoscopes don’t focus on making predictions, but are tools for self-awareness and reflection. This is especially true for tarot or rune readings. Many of these sites believe that what the “cards” (or any other tool) tell you isn’t the future, but the things going on in your life right now that may need addressing. Their philosophy is that your thoughts or emotions attract certain kinds of situations, and when you ask for a horoscope you’re taking a kind of “spiritual check up” so you can correct whatever’s blocking true love.

Whether you choose to get a general reading or a detailed chart, a year’s predictions or a chance to reflect and assess where you are right now, online horoscopes can be an important tool for dating.



By: Danny Wirken

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When you identify someone to love, you pursue them and when they accept you, you become a couple. But, how do you know whether you are going to stand the test of time or whether you were meant for each other in the first place. It becomes paramount for every couple to take a love test that will show whether they are compatible or not. When it comes to relationships of any kind, compatibility is the single factor that is going to keep a couple together in love. When you are starting to date, it is pretty easy to get along with everyone, this is because you are on your best behavior and so are they. In other words, you have not started being very open or you have not show your real characters to each other. There are people who go ahead and get married just to realize that they had nothing in common. If you have ever been in this situation, you are not alone. It is very common for people to fall head over heels in love with each other and after a few months or years, they become strangers.

When you are dating, it is good to keep this in the back of your mind. Look for the true character of a person and not just what they say. A love test will enable you know some of the deep characteristics about your partner that you did not know about. It is this information that helps you judge whether you are making the right decision or not. Love tests have been helping couples for many years as they prepare to enter into matrimony. You can find the tests in many places including the Internet. Many pre marital counselors are usually armed with this kind of tests among many others things. It enables the partners to know how their spouse would handle different situations if they were married. It is therefore wise to go through the test even if you are not going to be married soon. The truth is, you might be wasting your time with somebody who was never meant for you. A person’s real character is known under pressure. This is the best way to judge and the test will explore many issues that will make your experience worthwhile. There are different kinds of tests and this is to say that you will encounter tests with different questions testing different things.

If you are doing a test online, it is vital for you to choose one that will make the best impression to you. You can take it together with your spouse and this way, you will have the first hand reaction. Such a test does not have a right or wrong answer. All you need to do is judge their level of wisdom and power of decision making. If you find yourself differing in fundamental things, it will be quite obvious that you are not compatible. This is not to say that you dump them, you need to explore the test carefully and objectively. The decision can only be yours based on what you want. There are other tests which are done orally where a person asks you the questions then you explore the answers. This kind of test helps a lot and you should look out for it.



By: Francis Githinji

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Marilyn Monroe made that phrase famous. Diamonds are a girl’s best friend. That still makes a lot of sense. Here’s why.

Reason #1 diamonds are a girls best friend because they are so beautiful. Fiery, romantic diamonds light up her finger. White diamonds look beautiful with outfits in every color.

Reason #2 diamonds are forever. There are lots of beautiful things around. Why diamonds? Roses are beautiful, but they fade. Dresses are gorgeous, but after childbirth, or as she ages, that beautiful dress would not look as beautiful on her anymore.

Reason #3 diamonds are precious. Sure, moissanite may be what a girl might buy for herself, because of its lower price, but moissanite is man made. Diamonds are rare, natural stones. The diamonds that girls love are of the highest quality. The lower grade diamonds may be used in tools, but women look at the quality of the diamond. A large, high quality diamond would definitely impress.

Reason #4 diamonds are romantic. Especially when he is proposing to her with a diamond worth two months of his salary. It means sacrifice for love on his part. The fact that he loves her enough to save that sum to buy that diamond for her is a very romantic gesture that she will remember for years to come, each time she sees that diamond on her finger.

Reason #5 diamonds say that her man can provide for her very well. From the days when men would go out and hunt for animals to feed the family, to today, when most men go out there to bring in the money to support the family, women love being cared for. Being provided for. In many cultures, women look to marry a rich man. A man who can provide for them. If a guy can afford to give her diamonds, he can easily provide for her daily needs and for that of her children.

Reason #6 diamonds are practical. Like the song, diamond’s are a girl’s best friend. A kiss will not pay the bills. A rose isn’t going to pay for her rental. A diamond, on the other hand, in times of emergency, can be a life saver. A single diamond can be sold for enough money to pay for a woman’s bills when times get tough.

Reason #7 diamonds are a girl’s insurance. Ok, so now, there are insurance policies in paper, that promise to pay for her old age medical bills etc, but diamonds are a lot more beautiful. She holds and sees them. She wears them. Everyone admires them. They assure her that even when she gets old, when she loses her looks, even if her guy leaves her for a younger woman, the diamonds would still be with her. A collection of diamond jewelry assures her that in her old age, or she is in dire need for cash, a piece of diamond jewelry could be sold, or pawned for much needed cash. Diamonds are a girl’s insurance.



By: gennew6

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